What is Domestic Abuse?

So how do you know if a relationship is abusive and controlling? 

Have a look at the list below - are any of them happening in your relationship? 

Does your partner:

• Constantly check your text messages, Facebook and social media? Do you hide messages from your friends for fear that your partner will be angry?
  
• Text you and want to know where you are at all times.
• Make you feel guilty for going out without them? Perhaps they create a crisis just as you are about to leave the house?
• Expect sex on demand, even if you really don't want to?
• Dislike your friends and make you feel isolated?
• Emotionally blackmail you to get their own way?

Do you:

• Feel dependent on your partner for money?
• Feel that the house has to be tidy when they come home from work and feel on edge before they arrive?
• Worry what mood they will be in when they come home?
• Play situations over in your head to prepare yourself to try and calm a situation before it happens?
• Think - "It's OK, it only happens because he/she was drunk/stressed/overworked", or "It was my fault, I made him/her angry".
• Put off ending the relationship "Because of the children"?
• Find yourself making excuses for your partner's behaviour to friends or family?

If you have answered yes to some or all of these questions, maybe you should talk to someone? Have a look at our contact page for who you can talk to for advice and information.